Tell Me About You!

Hi fellow infertility warriors! It’s been awhile since we’ve written, but our IVF baby is almost nine months old and doing well! We are humbled and grateful every day. Our journey was tough and pushed us as a couple and as individuals. I’ve never been through such dark days prior to this experience. We never stop thinking about those of you who are still going through the process. Chris and I have so much compassion for everyone struggling with infertility.

Since our son was born, I’ve started volunteering with Resolve: The National Infertility Association. I answer the Helpline calls for the male factor line on weekends. If you are ever in need of support, please call–even if you aren’t struggling with male factor, one of our volunteers will listen to you, validate you, and support you through this process. Additionally, we started a support group on Facebook called “Male Factor Infertility Support.” Please join us there if you are facing MFI. It takes a village to conquer infertility–both physically and emotionally. Know that there are people out there who care and want to help.

I’ve never felt more alone than when we received our diagnosis, and I want to do everything in my power to advocate for the infertility community. We are talking about going to D.C. for Advocacy Day this year, and raising awareness within our own community and our state. I want to tell your stories. End shame. Share your sorrows, your hopes, and your dreams. I know how the experience made us feel, and have followed many of your blogs. I want to know more about the impact that infertility has on other couples. I’d love to hear your reflections on your experience.

The following are questions I’ve been pondering. You’re welcome to simply reply to this post, or if you’d like to reply more privately you can email us at

  1. In one word, describe how you felt when you received your infertility diagnosis.
  2. Throughout your journey, have you turned to anyone (other than your spouse) for support? Who have you relied on to help you (friends, family, counseling, infertility resources, etc.)?
  3. Have people outside the infertility community been compassionate and understanding of your struggle? Why or why not?
  4. What do you wish fertile people/couples knew about infertility?
  5. Are you public about your experiences with infertility? Why or why not?
  6. Have you felt supported by your medical staff as you’ve gone through infertility? If they could do anything to make it easier on you, what would that look like?
  7. What has been the greatest support to you throughout your infertility journey?
  8. What has been the greatest challenge to you throughout your infertility journey?
  9. How do you think we can inspire the general public to take an interest in the infertility community?
  10. As I advocate for our community, is there anything else you feel that I should know?

Thanks in advance for opening up and sharing your thoughts and feelings with us. Our thoughts and prayers are with you every single day.


Heather and Chris

5 thoughts on “Tell Me About You!

  1. L and D says:

    That is so awesome! Good on you! Must be great to give something back. 9 months wow! Our IVFling is now 7months… insane. Parenthood is really hard work huh, but of course we wouldn’t change it for the world 🙂 nice to hear from you


  2. ashleykyleanderson says:

    I plan to email you with answers to the questions, but I also wanted to say hey! I can’t believe little Casper is 9 months! Why does it have to go SO fast?? We’ve somehow already celebrated the first birthday and Ross turned 13 months yesterday. He is walking about 99% of the time and saying words now, like all of a sudden he became this tiny person!
    I think it’s so great that you’re using your experience to become an advocate for others. You are so good at encouraging and supporting people who are hurting, and I feel like the MFI section of infertility in general is so underrepresented and desperately needs more voices like yours. Thanks for sharing a little update! I know it’s hard to find the time and energy sometimes to blog at the end of the day (I’ve been meaning to do more of it myself!), but it’s really nice to hear that you guys are well. Lots of love to your family! ❤

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    • heatherhopeful says:

      Ashley! I’m sorry for the delay in responding! Ross must be doing so much more now. Casper aka Mason is going to be a year old next month. I cannot believe it.

      I just got back from attending Resolve’s Advocacy Day in DC and I need to blog about it. I think blogging with a little one can be super tough, but I need to make more time for it.

      Are you guys well? I miss talking with you. Big big hugs to you three!


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