Tell Me About You!

Hi fellow infertility warriors! It’s been awhile since we’ve written, but our IVF baby is almost nine months old and doing well! We are humbled and grateful every day.¬†Our journey was tough and pushed us as a couple and as individuals. I’ve never been through such dark days prior to this experience. We never stop thinking about those of you who are still going through the process. Chris and I have so much compassion for everyone struggling with infertility.

Since our son was born, I’ve started volunteering with Resolve: The National Infertility Association. I answer the Helpline calls for the male factor line on weekends. If you are ever in need of support, please call–even if you aren’t struggling with male factor, one of our volunteers will listen to you, validate you, and support you through this process. Additionally, we started a support group on Facebook called “Male Factor Infertility Support.” Please join us there if you are facing MFI. It takes a village to conquer infertility–both physically and emotionally. Know that there are people out there who care and want to help.

I’ve never felt more alone than when we received our diagnosis, and I want to do everything in my power to advocate for the infertility community. We are talking about going to D.C. for Advocacy Day this year, and raising awareness within our own community and our state. I want to tell your stories. End shame. Share your sorrows, your hopes, and your dreams. I know how the experience made us feel, and have followed many of your blogs. I want to know more about the impact that infertility has on other couples. I’d love to hear your reflections on your experience.

The following are questions I’ve been pondering. You’re welcome to simply reply to this post, or if you’d like to reply more privately you can email us at

  1. In one word, describe how you felt when you received your infertility diagnosis.
  2. Throughout your journey, have you turned to anyone (other than your spouse) for support? Who have you relied on to help you (friends, family, counseling, infertility resources, etc.)?
  3. Have people outside the infertility community been compassionate and understanding of your struggle? Why or why not?
  4. What do you wish fertile people/couples knew about infertility?
  5. Are you public about your experiences with infertility? Why or why not?
  6. Have you felt supported by your medical staff as you’ve gone through infertility? If they could do anything to make it easier on you, what would that look like?
  7. What has been the greatest support to you throughout your infertility journey?
  8. What has been the greatest challenge to you throughout your infertility journey?
  9. How do you think we can inspire the general public to take an interest in the infertility community?
  10. As I advocate for our community, is there anything else you feel that I should know?

Thanks in advance for opening up and sharing your thoughts and feelings with us. Our thoughts and prayers are with you every single day.


Heather and Chris