Unless you’ve dealt with infertility firsthand, it can be really hard to understand and relate. Some of our friends know what it feels like to struggle with conception, but then have been able to achieve pregnancy without medical assistance.
With my husband’s condition, we will never get pregnant without IVF. Many people don’t know what that feels like. If I had a dollar for every time I’ve been asked about my feelings on adoption, or if there was any other alternatives to IVF, I would be fairly rich at this point. Heck, maybe I’d even have enough money to pay for IVF!
I read recently going through the process of IVF puts you and your partner in crisis mode. There are unknowns, fears, and new decisions around every turn. There’s the constant battle to make the best choice for you and for your family. It can be daunting, isolating, and just frankly overwhelming. Then add the physical component to all of that. Your body is going through additional hormones, and there’s an extreme sense of pressure to do it all right so that you are able to achieve success.
Do you ever feel completely isolated by being an IVF patient? There are few people in my life who I feel completely supported by right now. Obviously my husband is at the top of this list. Next, would have to be one of my more senior coworkers. My immediate family is unaware of our journey because certain members probably wouldn’t be able to handle it. It’s a blessing for us and for them to keep it private. We feel much more relaxed without their involvement.
Being in the blogosphere, I’ve found a great sense of relief by reading everyone’s journeys. It makes me feel like we’re not alone. There are many people out there who are going to the IVF process, just like us. Reading the success stories helps keeps hope alive.
Yesterday I found out that my OBGYN conceived twins through IVF. I was in her office for my annual pap, and told her Chris and I are about to start the process. She was so excited and so unbelievably supportive. She said she and her husband went through treatments for two years and then finally decided on IVF. It was so amazing to feel like my doctor understands what we’re going through. It will be awesome when we’re transferred back to her care someday.